Another good lesson from Seth’s Blog
The easiest way to disagree with someone
…is to assume that they are uninformed, and that once they know what you know, they will change their mind. (A marketing problem!)
The second easiest way to disagree is to assume that the other person is a dolt, a loon, a misguided zealot who refuses to see the truth. Their selfish desire to win interferes with their understanding of reality. (A political problem!)
The third easiest way to disagree with someone is to not actually hear what they are saying. (A filtering problem!)
The hardest way to disagree with someone is to come to understand that they see the world differently than we do, to acknowledge that they have a different worldview, something baked in long before they ever encountered this situation. (Another marketing problem, the biggest one).
There actually are countless uninformed people. There are certainly craven zealots. And yes, in fact, we usually hear what we want to hear, or hear what the TV tells us, or hear what we expect, instead of hearing what was said, and the intent behind it. Odds are, though, that we will make the change we seek by embracing the hard work of telling stories that resonate, as opposed to dismissing the other who appears not to get it.
Always a good message here at Seth’s Blog. Hope you enjoy his writing as much as I do.
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Posted by lenwilliamscarver on October 9, 2013 at 10:36 am
very apt 🙂
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Posted by Ray's Mom on October 9, 2013 at 1:16 pm
Glad you agree. God bless
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Posted by lenwilliamscarver on October 9, 2013 at 10:36 am
Reblogged this on myownheart.me.
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Posted by Ray's Mom on October 10, 2013 at 9:28 am
Thank you dear friend. God bless and have a wonderful day.
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Posted by lenwilliamscarver on October 10, 2013 at 10:16 am
As shall you:)
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Posted by bradybeckman on October 8, 2013 at 11:10 pm
Loved this.
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Posted by Ray's Mom on October 9, 2013 at 7:32 am
Glad you enjoyed the post. And, thank you for visiting Justice for Raymond. God bless.
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Posted by Ray's Mom on October 8, 2013 at 9:04 pm
Reblogged this on The Matter of Life and Death and commented:
Disagreements matter…take a moment to read Seth’s Blog
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